Back to the caves–

I have been coming across these annoying articles and “research” by professors, scientists and the like that accentuate the gender differences. Men are programmed to have sex with as many women as possible whereas women just want thier man to commit to her and provide for her life long. Gaaaa!!! Now this is the worst possible thing to throw in your face daily. I mean all the time, practically evryday a new reasearcher makes a breakthrough research “Men want to have sex. women want love. Men look for youth and Women Look for money”. Okay, I get the point. But something seems to be very wrong here. Very wrong. People might actually start believing in them. My personal experience has been quite the opposite. every “sane” person I have seen do not dwell and analyze thier race, gender or any other parameter. they just are.  the way I see it, we are desperately seeking to go back in time and become cave dwellers. It is the revival of consevativeness, the radical religionist beliefs and primitive behaviour. Now, excuse me while rub stones to make a fire..

All about statistics

I am thinking about this lately as I have been under a lot of pressure(both real and imaginary) and I realized life is just too random and I have very little control over stuff that can go wrong. And death seems to be on the top of the list. Why am I afraid of death? I dont know. Is it the uncertainity of happens next? Or may be I am just too sure that I will be reborn. May be as a human or may be as a centepede? If human, then what kind? Will I be rich? Poor? ugly? sexy? what? wtf?

Its just too scary to be born again and not be myself? What was I in my previous life? I have no memory of it. Was I really there? And amongst all these things I have no control whatsoever. The only thing I can make sure is that I am happy for now. And I thought what makes me happy the most? My happiest memories ever are in the Monsoons in my child hood. Just a hot cuppa or milk watching TV and most specifically I can remember ‘I dream of Jeannie’. I dont need anything more. I am just not the kind of person who wants to achieve big. I knew this as a child and I accepted it. But then the unthinkable happened. I grew up. But not very radically. Infact “the growth” was a steallthy little thing and happened so slowly that it snuck up on me. I was surprised that I had not noticed it before. The signs were all there..I just refused to acknoledge them. The day you think that you have nothing to look forward to and that life is too random to even bother keeping goals and achiving them — you are a grown up. The child within is dead and what lies ahead is nothing but consistency. Infact you begin to like consistency and dread any change — you are a grown up. I always liked things to change (for better or for worse, I always loved changed). Went out of my to get some change. Any kind. But no longer, consistency is the name of the game. And also the realization that I aint nothing special. Why in the world would I have imagined God made me the way I am because He wanted me to be special? I dunno. I am another statistic. And that is why I hate statistics. There is a 1/22 chance that I will die in an accident, 1/18 that I will die of cancer, and some other shit. If you just combine all these odds, chances are 99% of the humans suffer or will suffer a “serious statistic”. In the end that is all I am, one little statistic. If it wasnt me, it would have been somebody else? If I aint what I am, there is a very likely chance(99%) that I would fill in for somebody to be a “statistic”. I just used to ask, why me?. why? And now I realize its not just me. It’s practically 99% of the population. Only in different forms. We are a Statistic.

Indians and masculinity

Indians and masculinity

Ok you saw the video above. what do think. go ahead and read all the commments on it on youtube.  Yes, even as an Indian, I find the guy’s(simba, is that his name? let me call him simba anyway) moves quite awkward. But what the heck people seem to like that kind of thing and I believe his moves will continue as long as there is demand. Now coming to the point, why do you think a lot of commentors considered it gay. I will try to answer that. People who think it is gay are mainly westerners(most probably americans) who have a rather rigid set of rules as what qualifies as “gay”. let me breakdown these rules for you. the list may not be all inclusive but here it is:-

According to the western rules, You are gay if:-

1) Your clothes are any color other than 20% variations of white, blue, gray and black.

2) You have a moustache. Some other kind of facial hair qualifies too.

3) You smile more than 3 times a day.

4) Too much flexibility in your dance moves.

5) You have facial expressions.

6) You hug your male friend longer than 1 second.

7) You have a beefy body. And I mean a certain type here, for example Salman Khan.

You are more goodlooking than the Standard Straight Threshold of Acceptable Beauty(SSTAB).

9) You are metrosexual.

10)You dont drink enough beers.

Now coming to the dance sequence, our guy simba clearly is wearing too many yellows, red, green and what not. Has a LOT of facial expressions. He even does a catwalk. I wonder whether his facial hair qualifies too, may be it does. not forget those unbelievable moves. it’s not too surprsing why he would be considred gay.

On a realted issue, Indian men hold hands (mostly the young ones till about early twenties) in public. And that is just the limit for westerners, they impulsively brand you gay.  May be some of them are gay, may be like 5 percent (or whatever the odds of being gay are). But you see 95% are not. They are straight but it is a culturally acceptable for straight men to hold hands.

It is so typical of the west to polarize evrything. Like black and white. zero and 1. a success or failure. the west in my opinion tends to oversimplyfy evrything, so that it can be “understood”. We Indians are not like that, but I am getting a feeling that we are getting there.  i am afraid that’s not a very good sign. Actually there are lot of good reasons to group things as zero and 1. simple black and white. there is a lot less confusion and life is easier and consistent. but dont be fooled by the simplicity for it also makes you less tolerant of any thing that is not black and white. There seems to be tacit agreement among Indians to let people of all possible colours(by colour I am not saying about the skin colour) to be what they are. They are not analyzed and explained in a seemingly scientific way. The acceptance is just there. I hope we will be able to maintain our sense of innate accepatance of things for what they are while still incorporating the western style of “black and white” classification.

k790i..this is how it is

So i finally got my k790i. it has a extremely decent camera for a mobile phone. nothing special in that. i had read all the reviews. but here’s the surprising bonus. it plays music extremely well. better than my ipod i think. is it because of the headphones? i know ipod comes with mediocre headphones. but then i do not think the headphones on the k790i are top of the notch either. yet it sounds much better than my ipod(ofcourse mine is the ipod with video generation, i wonder if ipod touch has much better sound quality???). i will soon post some images from my k790i.

the thing i dont like about it is the joy stick. hurts your finger a little bit. but overall i am very satisfied with it. nice phone.

i paid 15k (rupees) for it with a 1gb memory card. worth it, totally.

picking the right phone

ok so i am getting an incredible urge to buy a new phone. and i want these two features in it

1) a good music player

2) a good camera.

i have narrowed my choice to sony erisson 790i or 810i. 790i seems perfect with a 3 MP camera and a real flash. i have read good reviews and personal opinions on 790i. the catch is it does not have a “megabass”. now i dont really know what a megabass does or is it absolutely neccessary for good quality music. the 810i on the other hand has megabass but unfortunately only a 2 MP camera. so my choice would be 790i unless i know for sure this megabass is some kind of kickass technology that can deliver absafuckinglutely great music. what the heck is that megabass? why cant sony put that in 790i too? why have they made a seemingly perfect phone lack this feature? would it have cost them a lot put that thing in 790i? or is it just a marketing technique? like they believe soembody is dumb enuf to buy one phone for great music and the other one for it’s camera.